September 3, 2010
It’s Not Fair…
Claire had to write a paper for school on a time life wasn’t fair…she chose to write about my divorce from her father…if you wonder what kids feel, maybe this will give us a sneak peek…
I’ve heard people say that life isn’t fair. I never really had any reason to believe life wasn’t fair until June of 2008. In June of 2008 my dad left our house and told my mom he wanted a divorce. My life had seemed normal until then. Suddenly, my life felt weird and out of control.
I have two brothers and one sister, all younger. I am sure they felt upset too. It’s hard for my mom to take care of four children by herself so I started helping with them more. I had more chores. There were nights I wanted my mom to tuck me in, but she was crying in her bedroom. I went to bed sad when my mom didn’t kiss me goodnight. It seemed like I had to grow up too fast.
Everything was confusing. My mom had to meet with a lawyer. My dad had to meet with a lawyer. People cried a lot, my parents couldn’t talk without fighting. I felt like secrets were being kept from me and I was scared.
I wondered if my life would ever be normal again. September 23, 2009 my mom and dad’s divorce was final. I had to start going to my dad’s house for visits. I met my dad’s girlfriend, LeeAnn. All of a sudden, I found out my dad was moving in with his girlfriend and he would live in a different town. Everything just kept changing.
Things still change . My dad got married. I got a stepbrother and stepsister. My mom and dad quit fighting for a while, then they started fighting again. Things do seem a lot better now, not as much fighting or crying. I still wish at times that my mom and dad hadn’t divorced. I sometimes still think it isn’t fair but people do say, life isn’t fair.
Mindy said,
September 3, 2010 at 2:00 am
Heartbreaking! What a little writer she is! What a blessing that she can express her feelings so well. She must have gotten that from her mom:) You’re doing a great job! (P.S. I had no idea he remarried! That must be fun!) sarcasm implied:)
jelliebraden said,
September 3, 2010 at 2:20 am
I probably should just say that I wish everyone well…and let’s do lunch sometime!
Teresa Ledford said,
September 3, 2010 at 2:07 am
This has brought tears to my eyes not only for your daughter but for you. I know that you are a great mother and its better to come from a broken home then to live in one. Just know you are an incredible mother and one day this will be a reality to your kids as well! Much love sent your way XOXO! -Teresa
singlemommainlove said,
September 24, 2010 at 4:19 am
(((hugs))) I love you and Claire!!